Many years ago, I was in a stakeholder meeting with my team leader. Our team was given two problems to solve. After the meeting, my team leader tackled one and I took the other.
We each solved our tasks separately, and at the next meeting, my team leader gave her report. She first discussed the problem she had solved. She said, “I discovered that ….” Next she spoke about the problem I had solved. She said, “We found out that…” In other words, she took sole credit for her work, and shared credit on my work.
I learned a lot about my team leader that day. She saw herself as someone who deserved credit for whatever the team did, but didn’t share credit when she was the only one working on a team problem.
When you are leading a team, pronouns matter. Success should be shared, and failure should be owned.